Confidence & Self-Love Coach
You hold everyone together. Who holds you?
You're not broken, and you were never meant to carry it all alone.
The Work
My one-on-one coaching is a space where you can be yourself. I hold that space, so here you don't have to perform, and you don't have to hold it all together. Together we go to the root of what is really causing your pain today, because that is where lasting change happens, not on the surface. That is where what has been running you begins to loosen its hold, and change stops being something you force. This is holistic, body-based work, somatic and embodiment, so it reaches deeper than talking through your problems. We work where the old patterns actually live: in your body and nervous system, not only your head.
Together we rebuild your trust in yourself, let go of the stories that keep you small, and start building a life that is clear, confident, and truly yours.
Is this you?
You might see yourself in more of these than you expect.
This is for you if:
- You feel disconnected from yourself
- You don't know what you want anymore
- You're tired of performing and pleasing
- You're exhausted from holding it all together
- You've done the therapy and read the books, and still feel stuck
- You're done surviving and ready to live
Something deeper is calling you. Not to fix what is broken, because nothing about you is broken, but to finally know yourself, understand the why, and break the cycle for good.
How It Works
Real change is a journey, and it moves through three layers: your body, your mind, and your soul.
Understanding how you're wired
First, we make sense of why you can't stop. Why you give until you're empty, why knowing better has never been enough. This is where it stops feeling like something is wrong with you, and starts making sense.
Meeting what you carry
From there, we gently explore the beliefs and the old stories, and the parts of you that learned long ago how to keep you safe. We meet them with compassion, never force, so the patterns that have been running you can slowly begin to loosen their hold.
Coming into your power
As the journey unfolds, you reconnect with who you really are underneath it all. You begin to trust yourself, to want what you want without apology, and to choose from a place that is truly yours. This is where self-love stops being an idea and becomes something you feel.
“You've put everyone else first long enough. It's time to put yourself first.”
Hi, I'm Mikka
VITA Certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach
The work I do comes down to one thing: the relationship you have with yourself.
For most of my life I was the “good” girl, bending into whatever shape everyone needed. Performing. Pleasing. Believing, deep down, that my worth had to be earned. It took leaving a marriage of nineteen years, and years of searching after, before something finally shifted. When I found somatic and embodiment work, I felt compassion for myself for the first time instead of judgment. I am not broken. And neither are you.
Read my full storyThe Investment
Choose yourself.
This work asks one thing of you: a real desire to change. If something in you is done waiting and ready to go all in, you are exactly who I want to work with. While I'm taking on my first clients, I'm offering an introductory rate. In return, I ask only for your honest feedback along the way, and a few words about your experience if you love it. It's one journey, and you choose how long we walk it together.
Twelve one-on-one weekly sessions. A focused beginning, where you start to listen to your body and the wisdom it carries, understand why you do what you do and where your patterns come from, and let those patterns begin to loosen their hold.
Twenty-four one-on-one weekly sessions over six months. The old patterns run in layers, and this is the longer path for working through them, for when you know you want to keep going.
Both include
- The journey is shaped around what you most want to work on.
- Sessions are online over Zoom; I'm in the Central time zone.
- Each session is 60 minutes, one-on-one.
- Personalized practices and tools between sessions.
- Ongoing support by email between sessions.
I'm only taking on a few clients at this rate, in the order people reach out.
Your Questions
Answered.
Is this therapy?
No. I am a VITA certified coach, not a licensed therapist. Therapy tends to look back and work with diagnosis. Coaching moves you forward, back toward who you are and what you actually want. This work is also body-based, not just talk. If you are in active crisis, I would point you to a therapist first, and the two can work beautifully alongside each other.
What if I've done years of therapy and nothing has changed?
That is exactly who this work is for. Therapy works at the level of understanding. This works where the patterns actually live, so things often shift here that never shifted before.
What if I don't know what I want?
That is exactly why you are here. Most women who come to this work have spent so long managing everyone else that they have lost touch with their own wants. That is not a problem. It is the starting point.
Do we meet online or in person?
Everything is online, over Zoom. I know some people wonder whether it goes as deep through a screen, and it truly does. All you need is a quiet, private space where you can be fully yourself and won't be interrupted. I'll be right there with you the whole time, holding the space.
Is everything I share kept private?
Yes. What you share with me stays between us. This is a safe, confidential space, always.
Can I cancel anytime?
Yes. If at any point this work is not the right fit, you can cancel and I will refund any unused sessions, no hard feelings. I only ask for 24 hours notice to reschedule a session. I want you here because you want to be here, never because you feel locked in.
In Their Words
From my clients.
All the preparation and work paid off in a major way. I was calm, firm, and compassionate. I feel an incredible lightness and gratitude. I am so thankful for all the work we did together. You have had a tremendous impact on my life and on getting me to this point. So grateful for you.
I learned that my body holds so much wisdom, and Mikka helped me understand how to access that wisdom and the parts of me that are longing to have a voice. These sessions taught me that there is a huge difference between knowing something cognitively and knowing it in your body and soul.
Today's session was amazing. Your music, word choice, pace, and acceptance really helped me go deep.
I really appreciated how Mikka showed up fully and held a solid, safe, and caring container for me to show up as my authentic self. I was pleasantly surprised by how quickly and deeply Mikka was able to take me in such a short time.
Begin
Let's see if this is right for you.
A free 30 minute discovery call. Where we have a warm conversation about where you are, what you're carrying, and what you're quietly longing for.
- Get a feel for how I work and what a session is like
- Ask anything about coaching, my approach, or what to expect
- Understand the kind of support you'd have
- Get a sense of what's possible for you
No pressure. No sales pitch.
Just an honest conversation.